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What is Experience, Strength and Hope?

In recovery there are many clichés and phrases which are repeated often in 12-step support meetings. You may also hear these same phrases in a group setting typically found in an inpatient or outpatient treatment center.  These clichés are often used frequently in recovery, because they mean a lot to the recovering person and are…

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How to Be Sober and Keep Your Friends

I am sure you have heard the popular recovery cliché, “Stay away from old people, places and things.”  This statement is a heavily emphasized suggestion for any newcomer coming into recovery, because it is a strong belief that it is important to distance yourself from things that may trigger or surround you with your old…

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Do the 12 Steps Really Work?

So, you are wondering if the 12 steps really work?  Well, I guess that depends on what you consider to “work.”  In my opinion, I do believe that the 12 steps work, but I also want to define some things first before we get into why I think they work.   My Old Solution The…

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Marriage in Recovery

Dana’s Perspective If you’re familiar with 12-step recovery, you may have heard the suggestion from some members to stay out of new relationships within your first year.  While this is not a requirement to find or maintain recovery, there are some valid reasons why people often make this suggestion.  Relationships are not easy for most…

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10 Fun Things to do When You Are Sober

In the beginning of sobriety, trying to find fun activities can seem hard.  Typically, this can be due to the fact that almost everything prior to getting sober involved drugs and alcohol.  Now, you have to find new ways to have fun that do not involve any mind or mood-altering substances. Sometimes it can feel…

Ways to Find Sober Friends

Entering into recovery for the first time can be scary, nerve-wracking, anxiety provoking and can sometimes feel lonely.  We hear all the suggestions about ‘building a network’, ‘get to know people’, ‘let people get to know you’, as well as the ones about changing ‘people, places and things.’  This often feels overwhelming; especially when we…